As parents, our number one priority is taking care of our children. However, it is equally as important to teach our children how to care for themselves. The ultimate goal of parenting is to raise responsible adults who can be productive members of society. While we all know this, it can be easy to fall into the trap of always doing things for our kids, rather than encouraging them to do things for themselves. I know that when I am rushing around in the morning trying to get out the door, it’s easier and faster for me to put my three-year-old’s shoes on rather than wait for him to do it. But when I take those extra few minutes to let him do it, I am allowing him to build his confidence and show his independence. His pride when he can yell, “I did it!” is worth the extra time. These little moments help build strong kids who can bounce back from adversity.
Dr. Deborah Gilboa, M. D. – better known as Doctor G – feels the same way. She believes that by empowering our kids and teaching them resilience, we are giving them the tools to grow into the responsible adults we want them them to become. The best part? You don’t have to wait until your child is a teenager to teach resilience. Doctor G’s new eBook Teach Resilience: Raising Kids Who Can Launch! has strategies for teaching resilience at every stage of childhood, from preschool to the teen years.
Teach Resilience features 50 tips for kids of all ages. For my two and three-year-old boys, simple things like teaching them our phone number can help them if they are lost or in trouble. I’ve also taken Doctor G’s suggestion of playing HIGH-LOW-HIGH with my three-year-old, so he can learn how to voice his emotions. This has led to some really great discussions in the car on the way home from preschool! As my kids grow, I’ll be able to incorporate Dr. G’s tips into their development. Teaching my boys to fill out their field trip forms, set their alarm clocks, and change a flat tire are all small things that can make a big difference.
I had the pleasure of meeting Doctor G at a conference a few months ago, and her vibrant, positive personality matches her book. As a mom to four boys, this isn’t just something she talks about, she has put it into practice and seen the results in her own life. Her education and experience as a family physician gives her great insight into the various developmental stages that kids go through, and her advice fits each stage – plus, she encourages you to tailor her tips to your kids and your situation. Her 50 tips are not laws you must follow; they are a great jumping off point for rethinking how you parent your children. I find myself seeking out more ways to allow my boys to build their resilience and independence, because Doctor G’s book has taught me to look at parenting from a different angle. I can’t recommend the book enough. It’s solid advice that works!
You can purchase a hard copy or eBook version of Teach Resilience: Raising Kids Who Can Launch from Doctor G’s website. This book would be a great holiday gift for yourself or a friend. You can also sign up for her weekly parenting tips and follower her on Twitter and Facebook. Don’t be afraid to interact! Doctor G would love to hear from you and answer your questions. All those things you’re afraid to ask your pediatrician? Ask Doctor G!
Doctor G was kind enough to provide me with a copy of her book for review. All opinions are my own. The book REALLY IS THAT GOOD!